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Selah’s Journal: A Letter To Myself And My Single Friends| By @sazzieML


single&SpecialIt was a very hard decision to make. It took me at least four years to finally make this decision that seemed so impossible. Yes! I have made the decision and I have no regrets whatsoever. I know you are wondering what this decision could be. Just follow me as we take it slowly. I am writing this to myself and every other young man or woman who is still single out there as a way of encouraging you and I do hope you pick something out of my thoughts.

I know you have struggled over this subject severally for a very long time now and the struggle may apparently be in motion. What you actually want is indeed a good thing but I need you to understand that whatever is worth doing should be done rightly.

Irrespective of who you are, your age or where you come from, the focus on finding your significant other is an all time discourse for everyone. Like one rightly said it is the most important career decision anyone will ever make in life and as such I believe it should be done properly.

You will agree with me that the issue of being in a relationship is a topic that never leaves the conversation among young folks and if you are not in one in our today’s world, it begins to look like you need some medical attention.  I really must say that the pressure that comes with this is totally alarming and uncalled for.

People act as if being single is a sort of predicament or disease and please don’t get me wrong relationships are not wrong but I will encourage that rather than jumping into something that you may lose your peace about, it will be more appropriate when you are ready.

There is so much to enjoy when you are single and alone and I want you to embrace it as I have decided. It is a good time to learn, grow and prepare yourself for the future and I wouldn’t want you to blow all that up.

The singular reason that it’s happening for others does not mean it must happen for you at the same time. The act of whining that all your friends are in one relationship or the other and you are not is totally immature. Let me gladly say to you that those other people are the most inaccurate measurement device you will ever hold up to yourself.

There is so much to enjoy when you are single and alone and I want you to embrace it as I have decided.

– Sazzie

I have heard people say things like this is the best time to find someone to start life with and while there may be nothing wrong with that thought, I believe life is what we make out of it and not what someone else thinks we ought to make it. Besides, do you really need anyone to be by your side before you start living the life of your dreams?

Some persons have also said you can find true happiness when you are with someone but that is just a myth. If you can’t be a happy person when you are alone, am sorry to say that you may never be happy with anyone. I think it is far better to stay with no one than to stay with the wrong person. A wise man once said that those who fly high most times fly alone.

I have been a victim of this undue pressure and recently, I just felt that the way am going about this thing may bring a result that wouldn’t go well like we say in the local parlance.

I began to say to myself that there is nothing to be stressed about my current relationship status and it doesn’t in any way hold me back from accomplishing great things.  If you are single, you are just where God wants you to be and like I have decided until HE prompts me otherwise, I have no regrets and there is nothing to lose.

The simple challenge all these years has been the inability to hand over the subject to God so he can make the best decision for me and now I am willingly to trust him believing that he won’t disappoint me. Forget! When the time reach, you no go dull the package. Many young people are willing to surrender every other area of their life but not this one.

There are many things to look up in our life so don’t let this subject consume you and ruin what God has in store for you. Don’t let people pressure you into any relationship no matter what. Don’t let anyone tell you that there is a flaw with being single. There are many single boys and girls doing wonderful things with their lives. Don’t let anyone make you think being single is inferior. The fact that you are dating a boy or one girl doesn’t make you better or complete in any way compared to someone who is single.

Let me say that this is the best time as a young and vibrant youth or teen to use your potentials to bless God and bless lives and you would be a failure if you allow the pressure of being in a relationship ruin God’s agenda for you.

I know that God will lead us to the right person at the right time but until then keep preparing and garner some value to your life. I will see you at the top.

 About The Writer


Sazzie (real name Isesele Ezekiel Osaze) is a multi faceted young man who is a Media and Broadcast creative, Singer and Social catalyst. He is monikered the media legend by his friends because of his enthusiasm for using the media to transform lives.

He is a rare breed who is poised to positively affect the lives of as many that crosses his path using his gifts and potentials.

He has served as a Radio host and He is currently the founder of a twitter brand with over a thousand followers and a co-founder of other brands. He is a certified media and communications executive.


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  1. I concur. I have experienced so much pressure from family and friends saying something is wrong with me. I am complete in Christ and until God’s appointed time, no one is gonna push me into the wrong thing. Thank you

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